We'd like to say from the start that we are not into hype. We can tell when someone is really trying to sell us something and we don’t like it. We produce our blog and podcast for free. We don’t even accept advertising. It’s important to us that this information is as widely and as freely available as possible, and we’re not willing to compromise our message to suit someone else's agenda. But we have been getting more and more requests for help, more than we can handle directly, so that’s why we decided to create this course. We feel a sense of mission about what we do.
Our mission stems from one central fact: our relationship, and our individual lives, have been transformed by non-monogamy. It hasn’t just been a mildly positive experience, it has been life-transforming. We want to make sure everyone knows it’s an option for them.
To put it another way, we don’t think every couple should have an open relationship, but we do think that every couple should consider having an open relationship. To do that, you need solid information. You can’t consider a possibility that you don’t understand, so providing solid information is what our course is all about.
We’re going to provide you with two types of information in the OPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP course. First, we’ll help you understand and prepare for the thoughts and emotions that will be part of your experience of non-monogamy. Second, we’ll provide you with practical know-how to navigate the twists and turns along the way.
Now, it’s also worth pointing out what we can’t do, which is to guarantee results. We’ve put everything we’ve got into preparing this material, but we can’t control what people do with it or how other people interact with you. There may be specific life circumstances that get in your way. What we can say is that we will prepare you for the various situations you encounter. You will understand them better than you would have if you went in without our advice.
We think it’s important to take a moment to describe the people who we think we’ll be able to help.
First is the individual or couple who are curious about non-monogamy. It's a big step and they want to learn more. This will really be a master class for those people.
Second is the person who is enthusiastic about having an open relationship, but whose partner is not. They may even be afraid to bring up the idea to their significant other because they are sure it will lead to conflict. We really feel for that person. They have desires that are powerful, that feel important to their sense of who they are, but their situation seems hopeless. We will share strategies for dealing with that situation, including a video where Kate speaks specifically to the concerns of women who are worried about non-monogamy.
Third is the individual or couple already exploring non-monogamy. They may have been doing it for years, but feel stuck. Maybe they have encountered a situation that frustrates them and they just can’t find a way through it. We have paid specific attention to identifying and addressing those challenges.
We think it’s also worth saying that there may be some people who have already succeeded in opening their relationship but want a better understanding of the experiences they’ve had, or will have. As we like to say, non-monogamy isn’t one thing, it’s a thousand different things. There isn’t just one way to do it right, and we want to make sure that people consider all the possible approaches available to them.
Speaking of possible approaches, we go through several of them. Take the classic example of a couple that is interested in having sex with other couples. Where do they find them? How do they get their attention? How do they set and communicate their boundaries? We’ll cover all those things in detail.
We also talk a lot about mindset. How to overcome jealousy. That’s a big one. How to overcome social and religious objections. We know a lot of people have dealt with that, including us. Oh, and here’s another big one: how to overcome a fear that your partner will fall for someone else and leave you.
That actually brings up an important issue: lack of confidence, especially when it comes to body image. So many men and women say “Sure, non-monogamy sounds great, but I don’t want anyone to see me naked.” We specifically address those concerns. Open relationships are for all kinds of people, with all kinds of bodies, and we’ll specifically focus on helping you get a better sense of your worth as a sexual person.
We’ll definitely cover a lot of ground, but everything fits into a very simple structure. We call it the DO IT system. DO IT stands for DISCUSS, OBSERVE, INTERACT and TOUCH. It’s an approach that allows you to find a path through every challenge and opportunity you'll encounter on your way to an open relationship.
In the DISCUSS section, we’ll explore topics like questioning monogamy, addressing fears of jealousy and affairs, approaching your partner with a proposal for non-monogamy, and deciding on your style and boundaries.
Under the OBSERVE heading, we’ll have lessons on setting up an online profile; visiting a sex club, attending a 'meet & greet', or a house party, hotel takeover or lifestyle resort. We'll also help you deal with self-esteem issues.
When it comes time to INTERACT, we’ll talk about approaching desirable individuals and couples, dealing with rejection, dating, communicating your desires, and how to make consent work for you.
Finally, when you're ready to TOUCH, we’ll talk about safer sex practices, more about consent (because it’s important), and different play styles and activities. This is where we really outline the myriad sexual possibilities open to you in the world of non-monogamy.
This is the stage where you get to reap the benefits of this amazing life. If there’s one thing we can guarantee, it’s this: when done right, nothing will bring you and your partner closer than non-monogamy. This is the thing that the general public doesn’t really understand. How is it that bringing others into your sexual relationship can bring you and your special someone closer together? We know it sounds crazy, but that’s exactly what happened with us. We honestly believe the number one reason to explore non-monogamy is to take your relationship with your significant other to a higher level.
You know, we gave a lot of thought to how to price this course. Obviously, it takes a lot of time and effort on our side to put something like this together. At the same time, we want as many people as possible to consider the potential of an open relationship. That’s our mission.
So we decided on a price of $397, or six installments of $75. We felt that would make it accessible to the maximum number of people.
But for this first iteration of the class, we want to do something extra-special. We’re looking for a unique group of people who can help us shape future versions of the course. They will be co-creators with us, helping us with their advice and comments. We want to work closely with you to make sure that every possible angle is covered. So for this group we’re reducing the price by 25%, to $297 or six installments of $60. This discounted price will apply only to the inaugural class and will never be seen again.
Another thing we want to do is dynamically support our students. While we believe the course will be of the highest quality, and that videos which you can start and stop and watch over again work really well, sometimes you just need to talk to an actual human being. Sometimes your concern is just very specific. So we’ve created a monthly ‘Ask Us Anything’ video forum where participants can join in and discuss any issue that they are dealing with. Not only will you get the benefit of our experience, but everyone else on the forum will be able to share their ideas as well.
And if what you need is a more in-depth exploration of an issue, we’ll also be offering something very special. For our course participants, we’ll be offering a package of four coaching sessions at a price of $240, or $60 per session. Since our usual price is $120 per one hour session, that package would normally cost $480, so the savings is $240.
So for $297 you get the full OPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP video course, plus access to our monthly ‘Ask Us Anything’ video forum and a $240 savings on a package of four video coaching sessions with us.
As we said, we're not into hype. You may find you get all you need from our podcast and blog, which we provide for free, and that's fine. We really just wanted to put together a sensible package that meets the needs of the many people reaching out to us for more help.
The OPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP video offers the best of our thinking on the subject of non-monogamy.
The monthly “Ask Us Anything” forum provides answers to your specific questions.
Our discounted coaching sessions help people who want to work through complex situations directly with us.
That’s why we’re limiting the size of our first class. We just can’t provide that level of support to too many people. Spots for this first discounted session will fill up quickly, so if this sounds like something you think could help you, just fill out the form below.
You’ll be asked to choose your desired payment option, whether you want to make a one-time payment of $297 or make six monthly payments of $60. You can pay by credit card or PayPal.
Once you've signed up, we’ll send you a confirmation email with further details. The course itself starts when the enrollment period ends on Monday February 21.
If you have any questions-- if we’ve been unclear about anything here -- please send us an email at...
We're very excited about this class, and the people who will help to shape it. We hope you’ll join in on this groundbreaking project with us!
Kate & Liam